A Datingish blogger recently posted on how she didn't know how to be friends with an ex, even when she wanted to. She was wondering if it was possible to stay friends with an ex. Well, I am living proof it is!
I've been in three serious (as serious as they can get at 19) relationships and have managed to stay friends with all three of them.
The first, M, broke up with me for my own well-being. He didn't hurt me in anyway whatsoever, he just wanted to save me from the harm I was putting myself through. I wasn't at any state to be in a relationship. It's been years since our relationship - and we've had some rekindling - but he still remains one of my closest and dearest friends.
The second, T, was probably my greatest romance thus far. What made it easy for us to stay friends, even through a devastating breakup that neither of us wanted but both needed, was that we were best friends before were in a relationship. We always said "we were best friends first, nothing will change that" and luckily, nothing has. My situation with him is probably the most similar to LaBellaMorena's post. We had an extremely intense relationship and loved (still love) each other immensely. It's been about a year and half since we broke up and I'd be lying if I said that every time I see him those feelings don't reemerge from the depths of my hidden hopeless romantic soul. Some of our mutual friends say we are meant to be, but who knows? We control ourselves as much as possible and remain best friends. I don't know what I'd do without him!
The third, D, was potentially the most ridiculous of all relationships. Yes, he's the one in the angry e-mail post. I know all of you told me to get rid of him but I'm a bigger (or more vulnerable) person than that and didn't want to lose a friend, despite him being horrible. I think our friendship has maintained because I'm one of the only people who know how manipulative he actually is - and I don't care. I can see right through all his lies and want nothing to do with him. I don't stay emotionally attached but he knows he can act himself around me and enjoys it.
I take friendship very seriously, if you haven't noticed. I believe that when someone (even an ex) has changed me and affected my life so drastically, I should maintain some sort of relationship with them.
What do you think about staying friends with an ex?
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